Emotional maturity is one of the attributes necessary for maintaining productive interpersonal relations and success in daily endeavors.
Every day a person negotiates a lot of challenges and limitations to surmount. Prevailing over or coping with these challenges distinguishes the successful from the unsuccessful person. One’s daily goals may be thwarted and blocked and may result in feeling frustrated and disappointed. The emotionally secure self easily glides to bounce from this apparent frustration and face the experience just like an ordinary situation.
The emotionally mature self has a realistic planning for the future so that he has a positive appraisal of events occurring in the day to day grind. He can arrange his schedules and manage activities to fit in with future goals. Anticipating the future, his plans and preparation arm him with resources and provisions to face the exigencies that may arise.
The emotionally mature is realistically oriented with regards to self and outer reality. He exhibits a realistic acceptance of his self. He has a rational evaluation of his resources, capacities, limits, and weaknesses. His sensitivity to the demands of the environment enables him to gauge the depth and breadth of obstacles and challenges he has to hurdle. This warns him to charge his batteries, prepare resources and be ready to deploy. This insightful characteristic allows him to fashion a response appropriate to the demands of the situation. This internal preparedness also equips him with a sense of humor to handle tension and anxiety-provoking assaults. Humor, a capacity found in mature individuals, deflects tension.
With these traits, he is able to readily relate warmly to others. Endowed with optimism, the emotionally mature easily extricates himself from a bind that the immature finds awkward, irritating, or annoying. He projects the image he wants to achieve in the future and guides his actions so that all moves are channeled efficiently to goal attainment. He is able to utilize help from other people and resources around him. He thus tends to be successful. Success fuels his confidence in himself and confidence in his moves.
These characteristics of the mature self translates into an integrating philosophy of life. He is guided by a framework that systematically rationalizes the connections between the purpose and meaning to everything that he pursues and deliberately experiences.
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